My New Found American Friends/My one and only article to date :-)

This blog was inspired by a new American friend of mine that I met on Face Book who commented on my people skills. I've been thinking about that a lot and considering what it is I am doing that people are responding to. I thought perhaps I would share some ideas here and maybe get some feedback.

I am of the opinion that "if we are not moving forward we are standing still". This whole social networking thing is definitely a learning curve.

I want to make the following points about people skills.

1)Empathy

I think it is very important that we have empathy with our fellow human beings.I know myself I have so many failures on my conscience to overcome. The people I love have an enormous amount of grace for me. Therefore I am able to share that grace with the people around me. We are all on a certain path in this life and making mistakes is part of finding our way.


2)Practice being grateful

Appreciation is another quality that I have acquired over the years. I wasn't always this way. I have lost some important relationships throughout my life that I may have took for granted. As the song goes "you don't know what you have until it's gone". The older I get the more I see it is important to cultivate and nurture relationships.


3)Everyone is unique

What kind of a boring world would this be if we were all the same? My husband and I are completely the opposite in our personalities. This can make for a good fight at times. Truthfully I wouldn't love him if he was like me and vice versa. It is great to meet people so different from me on Face Book.


4)Try to be personable

I try to think about and remember who I am talking to. It is always good to have people's profiles open when you are talking to them. For me it helps to say their name in conversation with them. It has been said "a person's name is to that person the sweetest and most important sound in any language"


5) Listening not talking

I think it is essential to show a genuine interest in people. We can do this by listening. I try to encourage people to talk about themselves. Which most of us like to do. It is not a time for me but a time for them. Be a listener and you are in demand.

6) Positive attitude

How much are we bombarded with negativity everyday? It is hard to watch the news. We think it has no effect on us but it does. With all that is going on in America having a positive outlook and faith for things to work out paints one in a light people will be attracted too.


People are important and were created by God. We have a divine purpose and calling.

As a Canadian perhaps I am not experiencing the trials that Americans are going through. But I do care and want to help any way I can.

God Bless.

There is Still "BARF" on my Face Book Wall

I thought maybe we could put a dint in this sucker but I was wrong. I thought if we did a podcast with Frank and Mike called "don't barf on my wall" that people would listen. Frank even did a video of the same title and posted it at you tube. It seems all our efforts may have been in vain.

Why you ask?

Because I'm still getting barfs on my face book wall everyday. They even show up in my inbox.
I'm weary of all this scrubbing and I'm out of cleaner.

What's a barf you ask? A barf is some one who posts an ad for their business on your wall the second they meet you. They don't bother to check your profile to see that you already have 2 businesses that you are working, or ask anything along the lines of getting to know you, or offer something of value to you to start the friendship off.

No their first course of action is to barf an ad for their business on your wall.

It is kind of like meeting someone at a party who before they shake hands with you they throw up on your shoes. Aren't you charmed to meet them?

Or the telemarketers you slam the phone down on. Or the vacuum cleaner salesman you threw out of your house for being obnoxious.

So I posted this on my Face Book profile.."don't lead with your business..get to know people first" thinking I had finally come up with a slogan people would grab.

Maybe THIS would work I told myself.

Three people showed up and said they agree with me and said good things.

Then a fourth guy showed up, said he agreed too... and then he proceeded to post a barf on my wall for his business.

This is amazing I thought to myself.

Who taught people to do this? Are they getting results this way?

I'm starting to think it is some sort of barfing virus going around that has no cure.

Maybe there's a Face Book secret society that meets at midnight dressed in black hoods that circle a bonfire chanting "must barf on wall..must barf on wall". Yes a bunch of Face Book zombies who just can't help themselves.

I can always tell when I'm chatting to people when they are going to burp up their business on me. I haven't even asked them anything about their business but here we go. It's like I'm standing in front of them and I can see that queasy look on their face. "Look out..here comes a barf"

I don't know what to do to stop this tidal wave of puke coming at me from every direction.

Maybe I need to run across America like Forrest Gump. I'll call it the "Face Book anti-barf run". All the anti-barfers could join me and we could all get in shape at the same time. We could finish up at the White house and have some sort of focus group discussion.

Although I'm sure the president has better things to do.

Maybe I'm just going to have to face it. It never stops.

I'd ask you to pass this article around but your probably busy cleaning up barf off your own wall.