This blog was inspired by a new American friend of mine that I met on Face Book who commented on my people skills. I've been thinking about that a lot and considering what it is I am doing that people are responding to. I thought perhaps I would share some ideas here and maybe get some feedback.
I am of the opinion that "if we are not moving forward we are standing still". This whole social networking thing is definitely a learning curve.
I want to make the following points about people skills.
1)Empathy
I think it is very important that we have empathy with our fellow human beings.I know myself I have so many failures on my conscience to overcome. The people I love have an enormous amount of grace for me. Therefore I am able to share that grace with the people around me. We are all on a certain path in this life and making mistakes is part of finding our way.
2)Practice being grateful
Appreciation is another quality that I have acquired over the years. I wasn't always this way. I have lost some important relationships throughout my life that I may have took for granted. As the song goes "you don't know what you have until it's gone". The older I get the more I see it is important to cultivate and nurture relationships.
3)Everyone is unique
What kind of a boring world would this be if we were all the same? My husband and I are completely the opposite in our personalities. This can make for a good fight at times. Truthfully I wouldn't love him if he was like me and vice versa. It is great to meet people so different from me on Face Book.
4)Try to be personable
I try to think about and remember who I am talking to. It is always good to have people's profiles open when you are talking to them. For me it helps to say their name in conversation with them. It has been said "a person's name is to that person the sweetest and most important sound in any language"
5) Listening not talking
I think it is essential to show a genuine interest in people. We can do this by listening. I try to encourage people to talk about themselves. Which most of us like to do. It is not a time for me but a time for them. Be a listener and you are in demand.
6) Positive attitude
How much are we bombarded with negativity everyday? It is hard to watch the news. We think it has no effect on us but it does. With all that is going on in America having a positive outlook and faith for things to work out paints one in a light people will be attracted too.
People are important and were created by God. We have a divine purpose and calling.
As a Canadian perhaps I am not experiencing the trials that Americans are going through. But I do care and want to help any way I can.
God Bless.
Saturday, February 28, 2009
There is Still "BARF" on my Face Book Wall
I thought maybe we could put a dint in this sucker but I was wrong. I thought if we did a podcast with Frank and Mike called "don't barf on my wall" that people would listen. Frank even did a video of the same title and posted it at you tube. It seems all our efforts may have been in vain.
Why you ask?
Because I'm still getting barfs on my face book wall everyday. They even show up in my inbox.
I'm weary of all this scrubbing and I'm out of cleaner.
What's a barf you ask? A barf is some one who posts an ad for their business on your wall the second they meet you. They don't bother to check your profile to see that you already have 2 businesses that you are working, or ask anything along the lines of getting to know you, or offer something of value to you to start the friendship off.
No their first course of action is to barf an ad for their business on your wall.
It is kind of like meeting someone at a party who before they shake hands with you they throw up on your shoes. Aren't you charmed to meet them?
Or the telemarketers you slam the phone down on. Or the vacuum cleaner salesman you threw out of your house for being obnoxious.
So I posted this on my Face Book profile.."don't lead with your business..get to know people first" thinking I had finally come up with a slogan people would grab.
Maybe THIS would work I told myself.
Three people showed up and said they agree with me and said good things.
Then a fourth guy showed up, said he agreed too... and then he proceeded to post a barf on my wall for his business.
This is amazing I thought to myself.
Who taught people to do this? Are they getting results this way?
I'm starting to think it is some sort of barfing virus going around that has no cure.
Maybe there's a Face Book secret society that meets at midnight dressed in black hoods that circle a bonfire chanting "must barf on wall..must barf on wall". Yes a bunch of Face Book zombies who just can't help themselves.
I can always tell when I'm chatting to people when they are going to burp up their business on me. I haven't even asked them anything about their business but here we go. It's like I'm standing in front of them and I can see that queasy look on their face. "Look out..here comes a barf"
I don't know what to do to stop this tidal wave of puke coming at me from every direction.
Maybe I need to run across America like Forrest Gump. I'll call it the "Face Book anti-barf run". All the anti-barfers could join me and we could all get in shape at the same time. We could finish up at the White house and have some sort of focus group discussion.
Although I'm sure the president has better things to do.
Maybe I'm just going to have to face it. It never stops.
I'd ask you to pass this article around but your probably busy cleaning up barf off your own wall.
Why you ask?
Because I'm still getting barfs on my face book wall everyday. They even show up in my inbox.
I'm weary of all this scrubbing and I'm out of cleaner.
What's a barf you ask? A barf is some one who posts an ad for their business on your wall the second they meet you. They don't bother to check your profile to see that you already have 2 businesses that you are working, or ask anything along the lines of getting to know you, or offer something of value to you to start the friendship off.
No their first course of action is to barf an ad for their business on your wall.
It is kind of like meeting someone at a party who before they shake hands with you they throw up on your shoes. Aren't you charmed to meet them?
Or the telemarketers you slam the phone down on. Or the vacuum cleaner salesman you threw out of your house for being obnoxious.
So I posted this on my Face Book profile.."don't lead with your business..get to know people first" thinking I had finally come up with a slogan people would grab.
Maybe THIS would work I told myself.
Three people showed up and said they agree with me and said good things.
Then a fourth guy showed up, said he agreed too... and then he proceeded to post a barf on my wall for his business.
This is amazing I thought to myself.
Who taught people to do this? Are they getting results this way?
I'm starting to think it is some sort of barfing virus going around that has no cure.
Maybe there's a Face Book secret society that meets at midnight dressed in black hoods that circle a bonfire chanting "must barf on wall..must barf on wall". Yes a bunch of Face Book zombies who just can't help themselves.
I can always tell when I'm chatting to people when they are going to burp up their business on me. I haven't even asked them anything about their business but here we go. It's like I'm standing in front of them and I can see that queasy look on their face. "Look out..here comes a barf"
I don't know what to do to stop this tidal wave of puke coming at me from every direction.
Maybe I need to run across America like Forrest Gump. I'll call it the "Face Book anti-barf run". All the anti-barfers could join me and we could all get in shape at the same time. We could finish up at the White house and have some sort of focus group discussion.
Although I'm sure the president has better things to do.
Maybe I'm just going to have to face it. It never stops.
I'd ask you to pass this article around but your probably busy cleaning up barf off your own wall.
Tuesday, January 27, 2009
4 things to consider before you join that "New Amazing Business" in 2009
Well here we are in the new year and no doubt you have the opportunity to join the latest online business in Pre-Launch. How about becoming a founding member so you can make $10,000 a month to start. How about never having to sign up anyone or do anything and still make a huge income. Could it be true?
I want to give you a bit of a heads up before you lose money because you didn't really think it through. Just in case you thought the internet was some sort of parallel universe where only sugar coated things can happen.
Of course I am having a bit of fun here making light of some of the catch phrases out there. The truth is the internet is a breeding ground for every scam imaginable. I hate to say it I have been suckered in more than a few times in my day. As a measuring stick if you write articles and you haven't lost at least 500 bucks to some program you are a rookie and don't have my respect yet. I dare not read your article because your turn is probably coming to be taken. Seeing how I have I am now qualified to speak on this.
Enough rambling! Without getting too negative here what should one do if one is pretty much new to the internet. Let's say you want to start a good online business but don't know what to look for.
Here are a few good common sense pointers before you join any program.
#1) Who is the CEO of the company you want to go into business with?
This is obvious but you would be surprised how often this gets overlooked. I actually joined a program once and then I googled the guy who owned the company and found out he was a major scam artist with a trail of angry people following him. Needless to say I dropped that business opportunity quickly and ran like a scalded dog.
It only takes a second to do a little background check on the person at the head of the program. If you can't email the guy and talk to him, or get an idea where he lives on the planet chances are he is trying to be elusive and is not someone who is capable of caring about your success in his company . You should be able to see and talk to the CEO of the company if they are worth your time and money.
2)Research the company goals and direction first.
How creative is the concept and timely for these economic times. Do they have a winning track record. Any past success you can look at as a benchmark. If they have a website click on "about us" or the "compensation plan". Reading the fine print can be enlightening. What looked like a lucrative pay plan may have a few qualifiers before they let you make any money.
3)What is their marketing strategy?
How do they plan to attract clients or affiliates. What is the target market? Do they have leads for you or are you on your own there? What does your back office look like and what kind of tools are there? What is your role and what do you do to keep business coming in?
It has been my experience that if they tell you that no work is involved for you to earn money then you'd be better off to stab yourself in the eye with a fork than join up. That's how it's going to feel anyway after you march along paying your monthly fees only to find out there is no "magic spillover" from the sponsors above you and you end up hundreds of dollars in the hole.
4)Who is the person introducing you?
How much experience do they have and can you talk to them. What interest do they have in your success. Can you pick up a phone and get help from them if you needed it? Maybe they just wanted to sign you up and are too busy to care about you. Getting to know your sponsor is never a bad idea ahead of time before you join.
So there you have it. Don't say I didn't warn you. If you can't be bothered to do these then there is a good chance you will lose money. Make a good choice with your new amazing online business.
I want to give you a bit of a heads up before you lose money because you didn't really think it through. Just in case you thought the internet was some sort of parallel universe where only sugar coated things can happen.
Of course I am having a bit of fun here making light of some of the catch phrases out there. The truth is the internet is a breeding ground for every scam imaginable. I hate to say it I have been suckered in more than a few times in my day. As a measuring stick if you write articles and you haven't lost at least 500 bucks to some program you are a rookie and don't have my respect yet. I dare not read your article because your turn is probably coming to be taken. Seeing how I have I am now qualified to speak on this.
Enough rambling! Without getting too negative here what should one do if one is pretty much new to the internet. Let's say you want to start a good online business but don't know what to look for.
Here are a few good common sense pointers before you join any program.
#1) Who is the CEO of the company you want to go into business with?
This is obvious but you would be surprised how often this gets overlooked. I actually joined a program once and then I googled the guy who owned the company and found out he was a major scam artist with a trail of angry people following him. Needless to say I dropped that business opportunity quickly and ran like a scalded dog.
It only takes a second to do a little background check on the person at the head of the program. If you can't email the guy and talk to him, or get an idea where he lives on the planet chances are he is trying to be elusive and is not someone who is capable of caring about your success in his company . You should be able to see and talk to the CEO of the company if they are worth your time and money.
2)Research the company goals and direction first.
How creative is the concept and timely for these economic times. Do they have a winning track record. Any past success you can look at as a benchmark. If they have a website click on "about us" or the "compensation plan". Reading the fine print can be enlightening. What looked like a lucrative pay plan may have a few qualifiers before they let you make any money.
3)What is their marketing strategy?
How do they plan to attract clients or affiliates. What is the target market? Do they have leads for you or are you on your own there? What does your back office look like and what kind of tools are there? What is your role and what do you do to keep business coming in?
It has been my experience that if they tell you that no work is involved for you to earn money then you'd be better off to stab yourself in the eye with a fork than join up. That's how it's going to feel anyway after you march along paying your monthly fees only to find out there is no "magic spillover" from the sponsors above you and you end up hundreds of dollars in the hole.
4)Who is the person introducing you?
How much experience do they have and can you talk to them. What interest do they have in your success. Can you pick up a phone and get help from them if you needed it? Maybe they just wanted to sign you up and are too busy to care about you. Getting to know your sponsor is never a bad idea ahead of time before you join.
So there you have it. Don't say I didn't warn you. If you can't be bothered to do these then there is a good chance you will lose money. Make a good choice with your new amazing online business.
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